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Eighty-Eight Beautiful Years
Mother Violet Pinckney affectionately called " Vi" was born June 23, 1935, to the late Richardson Graves and Eva Housey Graves. She was educated in the public schools of Jasper County.Violet married the late Sidney Pinckney on June 23, 1956. After uniting in Holy Matrimony, four children were born. Violet received salvation as a very young woman and joined Solomon Temple COGIC, where she was a faithful member for over 65 years until her demise under the leadership of Pastor, Dr. William Borum. Violet sang in the church choir and directed the children’s choir. She founded and organized the Sunshine Band in her home with 4 to 5 children and persuaded them to attend with hot dogs and sodas, which flourished into many members. She served on the Home Foreign Mission, Hospitality Department, Bible Praying Band, and Mother's Board for many years. She was an active Sunday school member and church participant.
Violet loved hats, beautiful suits, and loved to clean because she would say, "Cleanliness is next to godliness." Her hospitality extended to church, the community, and to the state convocations in Orangeburg. She was a homemaker and perfected her homemade biscuits and cooked home-grown vegetables from her garden. Violet was a good southern cook and enjoyed feeding everyone with a smile. We hosted community cookouts for family and friends for many years. When her children entered middle school, she worked in several hospitals as a nursing assistant for several years and continued in private duty for additional years. Violet crossed color barriers and made many friends throughout her lifetime.
"May The Life I Live Speak For Me"
Prayer Warrior: Praying for anyone at any time of the day or night, people called and asked for prayer, and she prayed and shouted at the same time. When the spirit moved her, the holy dance was wherever her feet were. In the early years, our dad oftentimes would tease her by saying, "You won't have any heels on them shoes much longer." Violet soon would be called with praise reports of how God worked out their situations. Trust me when I tell you we made many calls to her, too. We had to move the phone from our ear because she was in a "total praise."
In her living room Violet established a 20-to-30-minute Sunday morning prayer after her cousin, the late Deacon Luther Polite, told her “A family that prays together stays together.” This tradition continued for over 50 years until her death. Her love for the word of God connected her with online prayer service and Bible study at Holy Tabernacle COGIC in Ft. Worth, TX for the past three years. Elder Perry Williams became her favorite preacher.
Violet's mantras were: Pay your tithes, trust in the Lord, love and obey Him, let me not forget, get up out of that bed and go to church, and lastly, serve the Lord while the blood is still running warm in your veins. When we as her children had a slight misunderstanding with her, Violet would say, "Don't mess with me because I am as dangerous as a rattlesnake." She believed God was going to fight her battles.
"May The Work I've Done Speak For Me"
As her health declined, Violet would say, "I'm a very sick person, tired and almost ninety."” We as her family would say, "Ain’t nothing wrong with you!" because of her faith walk and the healings, she had received previously. Violet preached to her family from her hospital bed about love, the goodness of God, and His saving grace before her death.
I believed that Violet heard the voice of the Lord say, "Come unto me, all ye labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest" on October 3, 2023, at 2:10 pm.
2nd Timothy 4:7-8
Violet answered, " I have fought a good fight. I have finished my course, I have kept the faith, henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me on that day and not to me only, but unto all of them also that love his appearing."
Preceded in death are her loving husband Sidney Pinckney of 54 years; two children, Sarah/Peachie (RN) and Rochelle Pinckney (a precious newborn); son-in-law, Deacon Daniel Lockridge; and six siblings,
Cherished memories are left and reside in our hearts forever: children, Gwendolyn P. Prince (Robert, a well-beloved son-in-law) of Ft. Lauderdale, FL and Brenda P. Lockridge of Ft. Worth, TX; brother, Joseph Mitchell (Helen) of Ridgeland, SC; brother-in-law, Eddie Hamilton of Beaufort, SC; sisters-in-law, Arphia Lee Graves of Indian Town, FL, Mary Ann Graves of West Palm Beach, FL, Rev. Bernice Graves of Allendale, SC, Ann Stokes of McDonough, GA, Marva Stokes of Garnett, SC, Susan J. Kemp, (Ervin) of Philadelphia, PA, and Connie J. Brown, Camden, NJ; grandchildren, LaMonica Pinckney of Hampton, SC (reared in the home), Trevin Pinckney of Dallas, TX, Daniel and Danielle Lockridge both of Ft. Worth, TX, and Leah Graves of Garnett, SC; great-grandchildren, Ashlee Pinckney of Hampton SC, Ke'Ahanna Livingston of Guyton GA, Treyvon Cannon of Springfield GA, Xavier Pinckney of Ft. Worth, TX, KamRon Pinckney of Waukegan, IL, Micah Carroll of Ft Worth, TX; great - great grandchildren, Caleb Brooks of Hampton, SC, Rilyn and Rayiah Gaskin both of Guyton, GA, and Kiorra Pinckney of Ft. Worth, TX; special niece: LaToya Graves of Hampton, SC (reared in the home); daughters-in-love, Sandra Polite-Orr, Delores Hazel, Ella Polite, Pearlie Mae Rice, Virginia Stevenson, Topsy Duncan, Lindell Garvin, Rev. Biner Lawyer Green, and Shirley Tisdale; special grandchildren-in-love, The Rice sisters (Pearle/Bennie) of Garnett, SC and Nikita Love of Dallas, TX; godchildren, Marvin Stokes, Attorney Corinthia Rice, John Henry Martin, and Darryl Herbert; a host of nieces, nephews, cousins and friends.